Mommy Mating
Does a Nice Dinner Equal Sex? by The Average Guy
The other day, I was driving home from the gym and heard a most interesting discussion on the radio. The central issue was whether men expected women to 'put out' after an expensive date. There was a lot of discussion with people having very strong feelings, so I decided to give you the thoughts of the Average Guy.
Let me tell you what some guys think. They think, 'I told you we were going to a great restaurant and then dancing on the beach. You knew that was going to cost me at least $200 bills. You drank all the drinks I bought you and now at the end of the evening, you want to give me a kiss on the cheek? I could have gone out clubbing with my boys and probably gotten laid'
See, this guy has fallen into the expectations game. He expected that since he spent a lot of money, the woman was going to have sex with him. Ummm - does this remind you of another type of transaction? One involving a street walker and a cheap hotel? You don't owe your body to anybody. But, there is a solution to dealing with guys like this and it all starts before the date.
Ladies, you have to set the expectations. When a guy tells you he wants to take you to an expensive restaurant for dinner, either tell him 'no' or offer to pay half before you go. The 'no' doesn't have to be a rejection, just tell him, 'I just want to do something low key.' Hopefully, he won't think that Chinese food entitles him to sleep with you. Also, offering to pay for half lets him know that you are a 'partner' in the date. Partners are only expected to carry their share of the load not perform tricks for food.
You have to also remember that guys are goal oriented. We believe that if you do 'A' you will get 'B'. But that is not always the case in the game of love. If you are not interested in a guy, don't just keep going out with him for the fun of it because he thinks the more dates he has and the more money he spends, the closer he is getting to his 'prize'. He thinks, 'If she didn't like me, why would she let me spend all of this money on her?' That is a fair question. He works for his money too and perhaps he should be spending on someone who likes him too. Some of you have thought about that question and decided to sleep with a guy because you feel guilty that he spent all of that money on you. This isn't good for anybody.
Men need to understand that women are not prostitutes to be bought and sold for lobster and wine. Women need to understand that men are not just there to pay for their entertainment. We should treat each other the way we would want someone to treat our brother or sister or our son or daughter.
The other day, I was driving home from the gym and heard a most interesting discussion on the radio. The central issue was whether men expected women to 'put out' after an expensive date. There was a lot of discussion with people having very strong feelings, so I decided to give you the thoughts of the Average Guy.
Let me tell you what some guys think. They think, 'I told you we were going to a great restaurant and then dancing on the beach. You knew that was going to cost me at least $200 bills. You drank all the drinks I bought you and now at the end of the evening, you want to give me a kiss on the cheek? I could have gone out clubbing with my boys and probably gotten laid'
See, this guy has fallen into the expectations game. He expected that since he spent a lot of money, the woman was going to have sex with him. Ummm - does this remind you of another type of transaction? One involving a street walker and a cheap hotel? You don't owe your body to anybody. But, there is a solution to dealing with guys like this and it all starts before the date.
Ladies, you have to set the expectations. When a guy tells you he wants to take you to an expensive restaurant for dinner, either tell him 'no' or offer to pay half before you go. The 'no' doesn't have to be a rejection, just tell him, 'I just want to do something low key.' Hopefully, he won't think that Chinese food entitles him to sleep with you. Also, offering to pay for half lets him know that you are a 'partner' in the date. Partners are only expected to carry their share of the load not perform tricks for food.
You have to also remember that guys are goal oriented. We believe that if you do 'A' you will get 'B'. But that is not always the case in the game of love. If you are not interested in a guy, don't just keep going out with him for the fun of it because he thinks the more dates he has and the more money he spends, the closer he is getting to his 'prize'. He thinks, 'If she didn't like me, why would she let me spend all of this money on her?' That is a fair question. He works for his money too and perhaps he should be spending on someone who likes him too. Some of you have thought about that question and decided to sleep with a guy because you feel guilty that he spent all of that money on you. This isn't good for anybody.
Men need to understand that women are not prostitutes to be bought and sold for lobster and wine. Women need to understand that men are not just there to pay for their entertainment. We should treat each other the way we would want someone to treat our brother or sister or our son or daughter.
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