Dear DDHG:
My husband and I have been having problems in the last six months. I caught him cheating and haven't been able to move past it. As a result, I've begun an affair with a co-worker. I think I've fallen in love with him, but my husband wants to go to counseling and give our marriage another try. He doesn't know about my affair, though. What should I do? We've been married for ten years. Should I give it another try? - Simone, Phoenix
Dear Simone:
You're in a very difficult spot. You've been cheated on, so you decided it was a good idea to have an affair, too. But it sounds like you may be contemplating actually giving your marriage another try. The problem is that if you are really in love with your co-worker, you owe it to your husband to end the marriage. Why would you even think about taking your husband back if you are "in love" with your co-worker. Just because your husband cheated on you, doesn't mean you have to spiral out of control emotionally. It sounds like you need time to think about what you really want with the influence of your co-worker or husband clouding your judgment. Take a break from your affair and your husband. Think about what you really want to do in your heart. You may be conflicted now because you don't want to throw away ten years of marriage. That's understandable. But if the marriage has been destroyed by infidelity and it's best to move on, you need to have the courage to end it. Good luck!
